There aren’t many valid reasons to refuse help when you need it. Trying to be independent? No, you’re not. That’s pride wearing a goofy mask.
I get it. You shouldn’t accept an offering from someone that wants to do you harm or that will enforce you to do others harm. We get that. That’s not what this is about. Most often, someone doing that will appear obvious. Anyone that offers you help in return for this or that…just move on.
Sometimes people have too much pride to accept help from people they don’t want to feel subservient to. Well, guess what? You are in need of help. Take help! Don’t refuse it if the only reason is because you want to be independent.
The Universe is shining on you when someone comes to you with open arms.
There are times when pride can disguise itself as independence. This has happened to me many times. You refuse help because you don’t want that person to feel like your boss. You don’t want to be obligated to that person, right? Guess what, that’s not independence! That’s your pride trying to wreck your life. It might be a little bit of laziness, too, but we won’t discuss that this time around. Most people who offer help are not expecting anything in return, well, aside from the satisfaction of knowing their life has purpose; the purpose of helping someone who needs it.
Think about it. To feel needed is one of the main things people long for. That is what Love is all about. When you’re in a relationship with someone, Love keeps you together because you each have what the other person needs to feel whole. Let someone help you.
If a good person offers you help, allow them to lead others to offer those in need some assistance. If a negative person in the community (or just one of those people that others typically do not want to have around) offers you help, let them. It could awaken their spirit and change their course of “bad” behavior forever. In the past, I could see myself disliking a person’s presence because of their bad attitude. Certainly, in my younger days, I would not have accepted assistance from a person like that. Mistake! If you need help and accept it from that person, you’re actually helping them. Perhaps they are trying this new idea out and you’re the lucky first person to experience it.
If you have not watched it, go check out the movie, As Good As It Gets. You will see what I mean. I am a true believer in dumping pride to the side and letting the Universe shine on you. It works in mysterious ways. Let it.
Remember, you can still be independent and accept help. Before you know it, you’ll be offering your assistance to someone else.
That’s the whole point.